I have attended many churches as I have lived in most parts of Canada. One constant across most churches, that I have observed, is the institutional obsession with gossip. It is one sin that we happily overlook because it is so much fun to find the ‘dirt’ on one person or another. The popular TV shows show us how much fun gossip can be.
Grey’s Anatomy is a great example of this. We are like the best friend of all of the characters. We know all the dirt on all of the characters. We know when McDreamy has slept with Merideth, while she is still with Fin, while McDreamy is still with Addison. I even love it, although we don’t have cable we buy the season as soon as it comes out each year.
I started to write this post after hearing about a friend of mine challenging the senior pastor of a large southern Ontario Church. Over dinner the pastor was talking about another member of the church and how this member was not properly supervising youth in the hot tub at his house. Knowing this other church member personally I find this very hard to believe, in know when I was a youth you didn’t turn on the tub with an opposite sex member unless he was hovering over you. Well I guess my friend stood up in the middle of dinner at his parents house and told the pastor that he was involved in gossip and needed to confess his sin. He continued by saying that he could not sit and eat with him and listen to this so was leaving. Next he went to the church member and confessed that he had partaken in the gossip and asked for forgiveness. Now he did not mention who else was in the conversation but just his part. This young 20’s person stood up for what was right in front of his parents and a 60 year old well respected pastor.
So when he told me this it go me to thinking, How often do we stand up and say that this type of behaviour is wrong? Biblically we know that gossip is wrong (Rom. 1:28-32; Mark 10:19; Lev. 19:16), but we accept it. I know that I participate more often than I stand up. I’ll even admit that I can’t think of a time that I stood up during gossip time and said it was wrong. When we have a problem with another believer we are supposed to talk to them, if that doesn’t work take another believer with you to talk about them, if that still doesn’t work take it to the elders (Matthew 18:15-17). We are not supposed talk behind their backs. So what do you do?
~ by curtismchale on November 4, 2007.
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